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10 Fascinating Things About Sex, Lust and Love You Probably Didn’t Know

8 Reasons to Have Sex Tonight Posted By: relationshiptips August 15, 2015 A little intimacy can be great for your health. Of course sex is healthy, but did you know that a good sex life can provide specific health benefits? We spoke to the experts to find out just how sex improves our health (not that you needed any convincing). 1. It may make you thinner. Dread working out? Don’t break up with your treadmill just yet. But if it’s late and you haven’t made it to the gym, don’t forget that sex counts as exercise, too. “Sex burns between 75 and 150 calories per half-hour,” says Desmond Ebanks, MD, founder and medical director of Alternity Healthcare in West Hartford, Connecticut. It’s comparable to other physical activities, he says, like yoga (114 calories per half-hour), dancing (129 calories per half-hour), or walking (153 calories per half-hour). Bonus: Sex may also help your muscles stay lean in the process. “Sexual arousal and orgasm releases

The 9 Worst Mistakes Stepparents Make Posted By: relationshiptips August 15, 2015 Avoid these gaffes with a little patience — and a lot of love. Being a stepparent just may be the hardest familial role to play — and no matter how hard you try, there’s no guarantee of creating one big, happy Brady Bunch -ish family. “Stepparenting is a delicatedance,” says clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula , PhD. “It’s all about communicating and understanding that blended families can have complicated dynamics.” Here are nine of the most common stepparent missteps and expert advice on how to bounce back from them. Mistake #1: You try to be the cool parent. “Many times, stepparents just want to be liked,” says Dr. Durvasula, so they’ll try to win over kids by buying them gifts or bending rules. Those tactics can be harmful, though, says LuAnn Schindler, a stepmom and teacher from Norfolk, Nebraska. “Giving in to a kid’s every whim can erode the parent-child relat

The Thing No One Tells You About Relationships   Julie Santiago Inspirational catalyst for women to break out of the box, bust through their fear and live a life beyond their wildest dreams. Sam Edwards via Getty Images The other day one of my friends asked me why I never write or talk about my marriage publicly. The answer was easy... Because it’s SO private! As a coach and teacher, I make a daily to choice to be vulnerable and share a lot of my personal life. But, I’ve always believed that my husband was an off-limits topic. I signed up for this — he didn’t! But, what I’m noticing lately is that SO many of my friends and clients are coming to me to talk about relationships! People are confused in their partnerships. They feel like their needs aren’t being met. They aren’t sure if their partners are right for them. They may be worried about the future. They sometimes feel alone, not heard, not taken care So, with the go-ahead from

8 Great Things That Happen When You Practice Self-Compassion You deserve your own kindness.     Lindsay Holmes Deputy Healthy Living Editor, The Huffington Post You treat your best friends with love, respect and kindness — but do you extend the same courtesy to yourself? We’re often our own worst critics — and that can take a serious toll on our everyday lives. Self-compassion, or the art of expressing warmth and understanding toward yourself at all times, is an important element to wellbeing. Not only does it benefit your mental health , but research shows it can even improve aspects of your physical health . The best part? It’s fairly simple to do. Practicing self-compassion is just “talking to yourself with an encouraging inner dialogue,” self-compassion researcher Kristin Neff, an associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas, Austin, told The Huffington Post. This includes acknowledging a difficulty or a c

4 Ways to Ruin a Perfectly Good Relationship 05/25/2016 05:01 pm ET | Updated May 25, 2016 Rhonda Milrad Relationship therapist, Founder and CEO of Relationup.com, an app that provides 24/7 live relationship advice from professionals via chat Kicka Witte / Design Pics via Getty Images You finally met someone great! You have been dating about 4-5 months and everything is going really well. But the amphetamine-like rush of endorphins that were released in large quantities at the beginning of your new relationships are beginning to wane. The high of being swept up in intensity of the new are beginning to decrease. The passion of the honeymoon phase of the relationship is starting to calm. As this next phase of your relationship begins and familiarity, comfort, safety sets in and intensity decreases, you might yearn to get back to the thrill of a new relationship. At Relationup, an app that provides live, 24/7 relationship advice from profess

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Cultivating Sisterhood: Top 5 Tips For Better Friendships 05/25/2016 10:20 am ET | Updated 18 hours ago Kaitlyn Stephens Pastor, Author, Speaker, Wife, Dog Mom and Fashion Enthusiast Sitting in my regular coffee shop, next to two new friends, I’m reminded of old faces, of seasons past, that begin to surface in the forefront of my memory. If you’d asked me seven months ago to recall those faces, a barrage of questions would have flooded my train of thought: “Could I have been a better friend?”, “What if I had agreed with her dating that girl?”, “What if I had called more?”, or “Maybe I wasn’t good enough to be her friend?” It’s still an ongoing process to rid myself of guilt, over lost and abandoned friendships. However, when I acknowledged that I can’t look to myself for guidance, or strength, the guilt began to diminish and the sorrow subsides. The Holy Spirit takes over when I allow the pain of what was lost, to be set before the feet of

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Christopher Lane Ph.D. Side Effects The Effort to Rid TV of Pharma Ads Moves short of an outright ban may be most effective. Posted May 25, 2016 Source: Benjamin Stone/Flickr The average American TV viewer can expect to watch up to 30 hours of prescription drug advertising each year, the editors of Scientific American noted recently, with drug makers spending $5.2 billion on such ads in 2015. That’s a 60 percent increase on the total spent four years earlier, with no signs of slowing down. Ever since the FDA in 1997 relaxed its rules on pharmaceutical advertising, allowing drug makers to bypass healthcare providers and market directly to American patients and consumers, the amount spent on TV advertising in particular has risen incrementally by hundreds of

Robert T Muller Ph.D. Talking About Trauma Mental Health Initiatives for Athletes Still Lacking Sports psychology often targets improved performance, not mental health Posted May 25, 2016   Source: Charis Tsevis on Flickr Canadian NHL teams ’—including the Toronto Maple Leafs—third annual Hockey Talks was a month-long initiative to discuss mental health issues and treatment. Athletes and mental health professionals gathered to discuss the stigma and stereotypes associated with mental illness and disability. One stereotype pertains to professional athletes themselves. The suicide of Toronto-born OHL player Terry Trafford and the suicides of other players in the NHL, as well as retired NHL goaltender Clint Malaschuk’s recovery after his battle with depressio

APA Division 15 PsychEd Education Research and the Media Spreading the word about good research is a 21st century imperative. Posted May 25, 2016   Post by Sharon L. Nichols , an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at UT San Antonio. She is coauthor of  Collateral Damage: How High-Stakes Testing Corrupts America’s Schools  (with D. C. Berliner, Harvard Education Press, 2007) and the editor of an upcoming book,  Educational Policies and Youth in the 21st Century: Problems, Potential, and Progress  (Information Age, in press). I read with interest Dr. Schutz’s reflections on his experience at the inaugural Psychology in the Public Interest Leadership Conference held by APA. It is a testament to the importance of this issue that the American Psychological Association 

Ravi Chandra M.D., F.A.P.A. The Pacific Heart Justice Breyer: Social Media Qs “Staring at Us in the Face” Supreme Court Justice Stephen Breyer weighs in on social media at the APA Posted May 25, 2016 This post is in response to Is Social Media Inevitably Sociopathic? by Ravi Chandra Source: David Hathcox, from Psychiatric News Last year, I wrote about an important Supreme Court decision (Elonis vs. United States, “Is Social Media Inevitably Sociopathic?” June 1, 2015)   In this case, an 8-1 majority including Justice Stephen Breyer narrowly “reversing the conviction of a Pennsylvania man who directed brutally violent language against his estranged wife.” (From the NYT)  Last week at the APA , I got to ask Supreme Court Justice Stephen Breyer about the decision.  What he said was edifying and important, but questions still remain.   The main issue for me was cyberd

An inspiring story about how a young Nigerian immigrant made his American dream come true Nigerian-born Chidiebere Akusobi has notched many impressive academic achievements in his short life. The 25-year old studied ecology and evolutionary biology as an undergraduate at Yale, then earned his master's in biochemistry from the University of Cambridge. Now he's three years into a joint PhD/MD program researching cures for infectious diseases at Harvard and MIT. But if you ask him, he'll tell you that the biggest academic hurdle he ever had to overcome was in the fifth grade. That's when Akusobi, who had moved from Nigeria to the impoverished New York City neighborhood of the South Bronx when he was two years old, was accepted into the rigorous New York City Prep for Prep program. The program is an educational boot camp that selects roughly 225 promising students a year from the poorest New York City neighborhoods and grooms them for scholarships to attend the c

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